I just got home from seeing Yes Man. It's a great film starring Jim Carey, among others. It's one of those movies you go to watch with your girlfriend, which is exactly what I did. You can look up Yes Man on imdb, this is not exactly what this post is about. Yes Man is, in my view, about doing what you feel you should and know would eventually make you feel good. It's pretty much an anti procrastination movie, an idea which I like. Lately, I've had some people ask me for advice on their love lives. Back in the day, I used to be really good at that, and would excel at pep talks. I also used to be quite the matchmaker, and would be great at getting people hitched. Then I realized I was taking out all the fun for people, and started giving advice like: 'grow some damn balls and figure yourself out!' You can imagine that did not work out well. Since then, I Have become more relaxed. Both about sexual concerns and life in general. I never did take much of life seriously. I guess that comes with growing up, and I sure am not there, yet. I did, however, get to live through a lot of things in a short period of time, read this, watched that, and in the end, I learned to follow my gut. That way, I know things will work out fine.  It's part of the natural instinct of riding the wave, not fighting the current. But, as in Yes Man, you have to know when your path and the current are no longer aligned. It's usually a moment characterized by extreme clarity of thought, one when you realize you're no longer doing what you want, or you'll end up doing things that either bore you, or don't bode well with your morals, provided you have some. Based on this principle, I've managed to get to where I am right now: happy, but unable to help other through their time of need. I do what I've always done, hear people out, tell them to be tough and that things work out in the end. The reason things work out in the end is because you either get off your ass and do what you know, or feel — notice that grey area? — you should do, or you find something less important and demanding to fill your time, thus diving down the food chain. Also, another thing I found was that telling the truth and speaking your mind will make you a lot happier. People either learn to respect both the truth and your private opinion, or they bugger off because they think you're a shit-fuck. Either way, you get to see who you should spend time with. So, when in doubt, know that you'll get nothing done by sitting in a corner, listening to the fucking Killers, all the while pretending to be thinking your issue through. Also, as an old hug-buddy said the other day, your friends will support you, no matter what — which is not something you always want — and people that can see both sides of the story tend to tell you the side you can't see clearly — which is always a good thing to know. Sit back, smoke a fag if you smoke, drink some vodka if you drink, or piss off if you don't do either. Relax. Remember you're already living your damn life and that the problem you're supposed to work out, is actually a beautiful part of your life. Watch a good movie... or sit back and enjoy your own show.