Say you're yearning for something you shouldn't be after.
I mean, people frown upon it and facts lead you to believe it is no the right thing for you. Whats more, you even said you don't want anything to do with it. And you make a big point of that, too.
In this case, seeking it would make you spineless and a hypocrite and a coward. Just like a person that's quit smoking and takes a drag, or buys a new pack. You fell off the wagon. At least, that's how people will see it.
It actually takes great courage to give in to temptation. Few people realize that, and fewer still applaud it. It's a nice way of taking responsibility. It's a great way to make mistakes to learn from. Or maybe you get lucky and prove everyone wrong.
Kudos to you if you do it!
It's morning and your alarm startles you. You awake to find yourself across the bed from her. You're a guy, so usually, your first thought of the morning is "I need to pee" or "Fuck! What time is it?" if you're me. But not today.
Gentle sunlight makes its way through the blinds and caresses her naked shoulder, thus making it glimmer in your hazy eyes. She slowly turns, and with the moves of a gentle cat, she draws near to smile you a "Good morning!"
It's not sex, and it's not love. It's better than vitamin C on a harsh winter day. It's better than sleep after a Mexican Drinking Night and better than water the morning after. You're both still a bit dazed so everything's moving slowly. It's like the dread on a Monday morning combined with the hope of a Friday afternoon. Every sigh, arch and 'oh' is so mellow, yet every grip and thrust is stronger than Irish coffee.
The climax is like a slow dance at a highschool party, the shower after is an exclamation mark. You wear nothing but a t-shirt, to underline how naked your better-bottom half is. She is still naked, because she can...
Oh, right. Then, you eat your cereal, or whatever.
Cheating is whatever you are doing with someone else that you would not want your lover to see.
I just thought I'd remind you of what I just remembered.
We all need respect. When we're teenagers, we want our parents to respect us. Then, when we're a bit older, our peers. Maybe our teachers, who want our respect themselves.
I think respect is one of the most desired things on this Earth. Yet, so few people actually have it.
The main reason is that a lot of fuckers demand respect. From teachers to bosses to politicians to parents to spouses to lesser lovers to garbage men. You cannot do this. It simply does not work like this.
Also, there are a lot of boys and girls going to sleep at night, spooning with their covers, just wishing they'd have some respect.
The first thing you need to do in order to gain respect is to not ask for it. You shouldn't even wish it. That's because respect is earned, not given. You should just be yourself, act the way you feel you should and others will respect you. Or they won't. Or the ones you were hoping to respect you won't while others will. Or the other way around. In any case, it's none of your business, but the respect you will earn, you'll earn the right way, and it will truly be respect.
When demanding respect, the best thing you'll get is fear. And fear, my dear friend, is not respect. False respect at best is what it is. Adoration, that too is not respect. Then you might also get hate, get rejected. That too is not what you're after. The only reason you're getting that and not the respect you were after is because you tried the wrong way, imposing it as a condition.
You simply cannot force a person to feel something in particular. You may guide them, but in the end, it's all up to them to do the feeling.
Now replace respect with love.
Yes, that's why you're not getting any of the good stuff!
'cause I've been giving for a while now.
That's not to say I feel cheated, or that I'll stop giving. But I have been missing the point.
You might realize that all the good you do, you do for two reasons: to actually do something good and to make yourself feel better. It's the stroke you get from being helpful, from the thought that you've made someone's life better, from feeling like you made a difference.
So, you could say that selflessness is selfish at its core.
For me it was all the more selfish, since I did not like others helping me, or giving me something in return for a good deed of mine. If you just thought 'money,' you have issues. This has nothing to do with money. It's about giving and letting others to give back.
When you don't let others return your favor, they will -- at some level -- feel like they owe you. Not to mention that you've given yourself a stroke, but denied them their own. Obviously, not every favor can be returned, and some good deeds are done just for the sake of doing them. I'm talking about the cases when there are no hidden agendas, when two people share actual feelings in doing something that is not retched.
Now it's all that better for me. I still get to be useful, and help people out however I can. Just that now, not denying their giving back, I get to see even more joy in their eyes.
Everything worthwhile will have its dilettantes!
Discos are a great example. Most people go to the disco to shake their ass. A lot of people go to the disco to find dates. That's all fine and dandy, as long as you find your date while dancing. Or after you've danced for a while and you're catching your breath.
Whatever you do, the first reason for your being in a disco should be dancing. That's it. If you're hoping to pick up someone, that's fine too. Just don't let that be the ONLY reason you're there.
I say this because, if that is indeed the case, you probably don't like dancing all that much. You'll probably end up just standing there, creepishly checking out all the other people who are having fun. It's just like going to the library to pick up a person. It only works well if you actually like reading. Otherwise you're a fraud. People will see through that, eventually. And even if they don't, what kind of relationship are you really starting? A one night stand? A one-weeker? Probably shallow, meaningless relationship?
Are you that desperate?
The best way to pick up people is by doing the things YOU like! If you don't like to dance, don't go to discos. If, however, you like football, go to the game. You're bound to make a hell of a lot more new friends that way. If you like beer, you'll probably feel right at home in a pub. And that's where you'll probably find your next date. And if you do, you're probably great for each other, since you met each other doing something you both enjoy.
Don't be the fucker in the disco that just sits by the dance floor, drooling over the tits and sweaty necks. Don't be the fucker who goes to the opera just to be seen coming out of the opera house. Don't be the fucker who grows long hair just because you think you'll be a smash with the ladies. Don't get your boobs done if you're actually a bookworm.
Don't try to be someone else to get a date. You'll be left with nothing. Enjoy yourself, and those who matter will love you for it.
