Do you really listen when someone's talking to you?
When you're having a conversation with one person, or more, you should be trying to analyze each single bit of information that comes out of their mouth. Piecing them together to form a tale or a great idea.
What really happens is: you stop at the first keyword you hear. You then remember a story you can tell that's somehow connected to the idea. Are you familiar with this feeling?
"Boy, just wait until I tell them this. They will so think I'm awesome when I'm done! They have to, because I do..."
You know, you're thinking that story is so damn awesome that people will be awestruck.
The problem is, by the time you've thought all that, and ran the story through your head, the other person has exhausted their idea. And you missed out on all that! They took the blank stare in your eyes as a sign of you being uninterested with the particular subject. And they moved on, changing the topic, most likely.
Then you smuggle your little story into the conversation. It's only slightly pertinent, but you make a big point as to how all-relevant it actually is. That same thought is still pounding in your head. "When I finish this story, boy, will they ever think I'm cool!"
That's one of the things I hate about conversations today. With some people, it's not an actual conversation, they're just waiting for their turn to speak!
If you're looking for great conversation, you shouldn't need to look further than the people you already know. Just listen to them. Well, most of them.
Cheating is whatever you are doing with someone else that you would not want your lover to see.
I just thought I'd remind you of what I just remembered.
I just cannot get this out of my head:
Every political campaign in this election is an anti-campaign. Everyone's mocking, bashing, dissing the current president. Nobody's making promises.
All the parties agreed upon a prime-minister to replace the current one. EVERYONE agreed without a fight! That is something you should never see in a democracy.
Nobody's been able to tell me why they all have such hate. And I've been asking, you know?
The question is:
What the hell did this Basescu do to tick off every politician? Because if they're so desperate to take him down, it means what he did is bad for them. Which means it's good for us, the lay-men.
disclaimer: I don't give a fuck about any of the candidates. I just find this funny.
Everything worthwhile will have its dilettantes!
Discos are a great example. Most people go to the disco to shake their ass. A lot of people go to the disco to find dates. That's all fine and dandy, as long as you find your date while dancing. Or after you've danced for a while and you're catching your breath.
Whatever you do, the first reason for your being in a disco should be dancing. That's it. If you're hoping to pick up someone, that's fine too. Just don't let that be the ONLY reason you're there.
I say this because, if that is indeed the case, you probably don't like dancing all that much. You'll probably end up just standing there, creepishly checking out all the other people who are having fun. It's just like going to the library to pick up a person. It only works well if you actually like reading. Otherwise you're a fraud. People will see through that, eventually. And even if they don't, what kind of relationship are you really starting? A one night stand? A one-weeker? Probably shallow, meaningless relationship?
Are you that desperate?
The best way to pick up people is by doing the things YOU like! If you don't like to dance, don't go to discos. If, however, you like football, go to the game. You're bound to make a hell of a lot more new friends that way. If you like beer, you'll probably feel right at home in a pub. And that's where you'll probably find your next date. And if you do, you're probably great for each other, since you met each other doing something you both enjoy.
Don't be the fucker in the disco that just sits by the dance floor, drooling over the tits and sweaty necks. Don't be the fucker who goes to the opera just to be seen coming out of the opera house. Don't be the fucker who grows long hair just because you think you'll be a smash with the ladies. Don't get your boobs done if you're actually a bookworm.
Don't try to be someone else to get a date. You'll be left with nothing. Enjoy yourself, and those who matter will love you for it.
Let's say someone very important owes you a big sum of money. Now imagine you have to make a loan from someone else, who's also very important.
You do so knowing you will receive your debt from the very important person that owes you money. That debt is more than enough to pay for what you loan out, and everything is legal.
What happens if the one that owes you money does not deliver by the due date? You're not short on cash, per se. You just owe someone more than you currently have. Would it be ethical to sic the person you owe money to on the person that owes you money? Keep in mind, they're both important, while you're nobody, on their scale.
I'd love to live in a universe where that would work. Sadly, even though you're not really to blame, you get to take the fall. And that does not make perfect sense, now does it?
Now, imagine the state owes you a ton of money, you're a pharmacy, and you yourself owe money to the distributors. Wouldn't it be nice to be able to tell said distributors that the damn state is trying to take you off the market? The state and the distributors could easily arrive to a long-term agreement or some sort of installment based payoff. But no. The state cannot be declared insolvent, while you can. And that is exactly what will happen to you.
Now, imagine the state of Romania owes most of the pharmacies from Timişoara a ton of money... you can figure out the rest, yeah?
Well, that's actually happening.
One press of a key. That's how easy a person disappears from my desktop.
It's satisfying in a way. Knowing that I can end any conversation, no matter how prematurely, with a single stroke of the pinky. The fun part?
I do this in real life as well. There's an obvious "esc" key to any conversation. Like when a person tries to convert me to a religion, all I have to do is wait for them to mention "god" and bluntly ask "I'm sorry. Who?" -- I love the anger in their eyes when I do that. Or when a beggar ask me for money, all I have to do is look them in the eye and say "No".
I actually like to do that. Let people know if I can't quite tend to their needs right then and there. It saves me a lot of headaches and focus, and saves them a lot of false hope. Win-win.
It also sends out the impression that I'm a sincere being, so it's like a triple win.
But what can I change?
Romania is a beautiful country, sometimes. There are many things wrong with it, but then all the nations of this world have their own issues. Some look to great leaders to solve them, others go on strike every fortnight, others cannot even admit they have a problem. We, the Romanian people, keep complaining about our problems. We know we have them, some of us even claim to know exactly what they are.
What's more, some even give out solutions to the problems. The problem with that is, there's no one solution to rule them all. No one solution that will fix the other issues indirectly. But that's always the way they're presented. Since the people that propose these issues have no real authority, just too much time to think, these ideas -- which are not always bad -- never get implemented. Again, because they're not seen as the biggest problem, or greatest solution.
I don't have any solutions, me. I do have an idea though. Rather than trying to find the one big problem and its solution that will magically make things better, we could try to solve as many of the other, seemingly unimportant, problems as we can. Also, solving the big one first will be hard, as it's probably tied to all the lesser ones. Solving the little ones first will be easier and, since they are all tied together, solving issues will, or might, get increasingly easy after we knock down a few.
And no, I don't know where to start, and I don't care. And no, I'm no expert on this issue, obviously.
But I'm willing to aid you if you have a good idea.